Extravagant Affirmation.

You love to spend money on others rather than yourself, even if there’s no money to spend. You have an attitude of “nothing is too good” for your partner or friends, and you don’t let pragmatism get in the way of friendships or romance! 

While this might sound like it’s coming from a place of caring, sometimes this can mask an insecurity that you’re not “enough”. Extravagant Affirmations connect money very strongly to romance and friendships, and strive to make their partner feel cherished. Don’t let your generosity be to your detriment; it’s not about people pleasing, but mutually improving your relationship.

Are you all about Extravagant Affirmation? Here’s how to communicate with others.

• You don’t give to receive but, nevertheless, with the amount you spoil your loved ones you can sometimes feel under appreciated. If you feel like your generosity is being taken for granted, remember that not everyone shows appreciation in the same way, and their affirmation towards you might take a different form to extravagant gifts - it doesn’t mean they’re not meaningful. 

• If, still, you’d like your loved ones to spoil you a little more, why not suggest saving and spending together on a treat for you both, whether it’s a new restaurant you’ve wanted to try or something for your home? They might find enjoyment in treating you, and it will give you the opportunity to express how valued this affirmation makes you feel.

• That said, try to accept that your loved one might not be into short term spending and places higher value on long term plans. 

• If you feel your generosity is becoming unsustainable, remember it’s not the only way to show them that you care. And if your extravagant generosity is all they seem to care about, maybe it’s time to question the nature of your relationship.

Know someone who speaks this language? Here’s how to communicate with them.

• We all like to be treated every now and then, but if you know an Extravagant Affirmation, it can sometimes get all too much. You probably didn’t ask them to spend that much money on you after all, and you might feel pressure to spend that much money on them in return. 

• You may also, at times, feel like they’ve spent more money on a gift for you than time thinking about what would really mean the most to you.

• If you want them to cut back on the extravagant gifting, try reframing their spending within the context of your priorities. Thank them for the sentiment, but stress that what means most to you right now is ensuring you’ve both got enough money for your wants and needs this month, or saving for your future together. It’s about showing them you appreciate the gesture, but guiding them to the kind of gesture you value most.

How compatible are you?

Extravagant Affirmation fares well with money languages that also show they care via financial provision, such as fellow Extravagant Affirmations as well as Acts of Finance.

Need a new money habit?

Why not consider using Settle Up, a quick link to request money, or Split the Bill to share the bill with your loved ones every once in a while?

The article above includes general information and should not be taken as financial advice. If you have questions about your specific circumstances, please speak to an independent financial advisor.